This week you get to meet not one but TWO incredibly rad moms! We are so pumped to have Milah and Erica as our #FEMMEFEATUREFRIDAY today. We love how Milah and Erica openly share the highs and lows of single parenthood. With these women, there is no sugar coating the challenges that arise when you are a single mother trying to balance raising a child with your professional and personal life. Their goal is to challenge the preconceived ideas of parenthood while simultaneously empowering moms to stay true to the women they are.
Single moms Milah and Erica host a weekly podcast called Good Moms Bad Choices. What started off as a hobby has now developed into a community of over 30 thousand monthly listeners! Each week Milah and Erica tackle subjects such as societal norms, parenthood, sex and dating. They challenge the stereotypes associated with each of these topics while inspiring their listeners to live their lives authentically. Their uncensored and outspoken approach to their weekly discussions is what makes these badass women so relatable. Learn, laugh, and cry with Milah and Erica every Wednesday at 6PM PST or check out their website www.goodmomsbadchoices.com to find out more information!
Milah and Erica are thought leaders. By sharing their story, they continue to define and redefine what it means to be a single mom in today’s world. Their work is SO important because they willingly tread into the big and scary questions full of compassion and understanding. On top of all that, they show us why being a mom is so cool and why it is truly one of life’s greatest gifts. They remind moms that while being a single parent is hard, they must not take for granted the beautiful opportunity they have been given to raise a child. Thank you Milah and Erica for being the utmost role models for a new generation of moms!
Written by Alessia Rotino
Tell us about your personal journeys as single parents. What ultimately inspired you ladies to start a podcast and create Good Moms Bad Choices?
Milah: My journey as a single parent began when my daughter was two. It took a lot of courage to muster up the power to begin the journey... I had a lot of disappointment in my situation and myself for not making it work. I had a lot of fear about being labeled a single black mom. Although I’m not very traditional, I felt like I had somehow failed in my woman duties of being married and a mother. Overall, I found that valuing my own happiness and wanting to be the best version of myself for Luna, guided me to step into the unknown.
Erica: My daughter is four and I became a single parent when she was two and a half. I had gone through postpartum depression and did not have many mommy friends so I felt very alone in the first 2 years of motherhood. I began listening to podcasts and quickly realized there weren’t really any focusing on single parenting from the perspective of a woman of color. I decided that I’d start my own as a hobby and asked my only mommy friend at the time (Jamilah) to join. On Good Moms we share our feelings and struggles about maintaining our personal identities while navigating parenthood as well as realizing that being a parent doesn’t look a particular way. Never would we have imagined that we would be a year in, posting episodes every week and growing an amazing community of mamas and women.
What are some of the most common misconceptions you’ve encountered with being a single mom?
The most common misconception of being a mom period is that you suddenly have to morph into Martha Stewart, drive a mini van and become a soccer mom and forget the woman you were pre-motherhood. The misconception that you can’t travel or pursue your dreams, date, have sex or indulge in hood rat stuff with your friends anymore haha.
What piece of advice would you give to a woman who is struggling with being a single parent?
There’s beauty in living a life that aligns with your authentic self. In fact, living a life that’s unfulfilling is not only a disservice to yourself but also to your child. Don’t be scared of the unknown.
What is your favorite thing about being a parent? Tell us what makes being a mother so special?
There are many things, but one of the biggest ones is the opportunity to witness a human experiencing everything for the first time. The opportunity to reshape views and opinions that may have not served you as a child and adult, and change those things for your little one.What makes being a mother so special is the gift to contribute to humanity by raising one less A-hole and one more compassionate loving being.
What’s your definition of a YGTGirl?
A YGTGirl is a woman that doesn’t do what’s popular, but instead follows their truth and empowers those around them.